Do you know what a man looks for in a woman?
Are you chaste but never chased? If you think being
left on the shelf is something to do with your wardrobe then here are
five things that men look for in women
Setting aside clichés regarding physical appearances, what men look
for in women is surprisingly consistent. Despite a myriad of different
tastes, cultures and general preferences, it usually boils down to a
handful of factors which have little or nothing to do with age, physical
ability or ethnicity. Ultimately most of us have it inbred in us that
true beauty is on the inside and the outside is merely a shell that may
or may not accurately represent the true person.
Here are five things that a man looks for in a woman:
Self-confidence
It comes down to 'if you don't believe in yourself, no-one else will'. A
woman who has self-confidence is remarkably sexy. She knows who she
really is, where she wants to go and how she wants to get there. We all
cling to confident people (as long as that self-confidence is not
exaggerated or unjustified) and a self-confident lady is one who is
likely to score well on the other factors here. Self-confident women are
also knowledgeable and reliable. They understand the importance of being
depended upon and will expect the same behaviour back from their
partner.
Self-respect
Respect for your presence, opinions, well-being etc begins with you.
If you don't place value on yourself, no-one else will and you will be
forever on the sidelines of life. Most men don't want a 'door-mat'. Men
are hunters by background and like to feel that they have got the prize
specimen and, consequently, will wish to keep such a lady happy. Women
can enforce that by making it clear that they are not to be treated
out-of-hand.
Sense of humour
We've all seen the girl at the party with the happy face surrounded by
men hanging on every word. Simply, we like to be made to laugh and are
conditioned from birth to respond positively to a smile or laughter.
This does not mean having to do a stand-up comedian's routine nor does
it mean being air-headed, having a sense of humour means knowing when to
not take life too seriously and showing it.
Support and 'being there'
Men often feel isolated in their work and under pressure to perform. In
most families, the father is still the breadwinner and may have to
choose between striving for a higher-paid, more demanding job or a
lower-paid, more flexible one. Which is more important - material
stability or family time? It is not an easy equation and either way
there will be a sacrifice. The support of a partner through this period
of a relationship is essential.
Friend and confidante
We all need to be able to voice our fears and concerns with someone as
well as sharing the good times with them. A man will look for a woman
who can keep her own counsel (and not treat the man's worries as gossip
material) as well as be able to give good advice. In crisis times, the
pair may only have each other and that is when the true test of the
friendship and the relationship will happen.
The media tells us that men crave scantily-clad young girls with
unattainable figures. That is the media's idea, not a male one. True,
they may turn a man's eyes but they won't turn his head or his heart -
he has other ideals that such two-dimensional caricatures will not
satisfy.
If you're a lady, do you have what a man looks for in a woman?
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